RACHEL HOLLIS HAS NOT FAILED YOU
Don't forget how she helped you rise.
Last week NY Times best-selling author, thought leader, & life-relationship coach Rachel Hollis announced her divorce from husband Dave Hollis after 16 years of marriage. I was astonished at the hate and aggression I read from fellow writers and fans about this distraught woman’s divorce news. I read that one fan felt duped embarrassment and betrayal. There was another writer depicting Rachel as, “…not being so real after all.”
The whole scene to me eerily plays out like another famous woman we all know who was charged and convicted of heresy. Rachel Hollis certainly hasn’t come close to the sacrifices made by Joan of Arc, but I found the comparisons of these two women’s traits and situations quite canny. Both women’s rise was quite remarkable considering their humble start in life. Joan was a peasant girl with no military experience who led the French victory over the English. Rachel was born into a rural Pentecostal family who rose to the ranks of her male self-help counterparts with a google search bar and an intentional mindful living philosophy.
When a fellow movement sister has fallen, why do we turn our backs and set her afire with hate? I want to scream through the computer screen, “Our fellow Joan is burning, do you have any compassion?”
Those calling Rachel Hollis out as a fake has clearly forgotten all of her amazing contributions to the women empowerment movement as a whole. It’s a very short-sighted view of what this self-made woman has achieved for herself and what she’s made possible for other women like myself to follow in her path. Lucky for Rach she can’t suffer the same cruel demise as Joan for her so-called trickery. Relationship coaching is like 1/20th of what Rachel provides to its readers, followers, and fans. So, to say now you can’t respect her as a leader or mentor is completely absurd.
When Tiger Woods cheated on his wife, fans and critics never discredited him as being one of the greatest golfers the world has ever seen.
Rachel Hollis is indeed very much admirable. She challenges women’s mindset on what they should be, act, or say according to societal prejudicial standards. She hasn’t shied away from a challenge beginning with her move to Los Angeles, CA to make her own way. She built and ran a successful LA wedding planning business servicing several high-profile celebrities. She overcame her debilitating anxiety. Rachel is a published fiction writer and New York Times Best Selling Author with her book Girl Wash Your Face. Rachel Hollis persistence and passion has become a million-dollar brand in a once male dominant self-help space. THIS is what women empowerment and leadership look like.
As a regular listener of Rachel’s Rise Podcast and the Rachel and Dave Hollis Rise Together Podcast, they have been crystal clear about their sex life, past addictions, and other very personal struggles. I also have to ask what real benefit would it have been for Rachel or Dave to divulge months leading up to the official announcement they were on their way to divorce-Ville? Especially since I’m 95% sure they didn’t even know themselves. A woman who is on the verge of divorcing her husband is not going to promote him as CEO of her company.
Rachel and Dave Hollis’ philosophy of being mindful partners and parents for their family is still very much relevant — married or divorced.
I don’t believe there are many in this world who have thought or put as much mindful action toward a marriage than Rachel or Dave Hollis. For someone who has been married for 17 years (together 25) when we allowed non-certified professionals to give us advice on marriage, it never ended well. The Hollis dissenters will counter its fair game when you parlay yourself as a thought leader preaching you got this, when in fact you don’t. But whose to say divorce means defeat?
How can I ever trust Rachel’s advice again?
If your trust or loyalty toward Rachel Hollis still wavers, remember back when you first read one of her quotes, bought her book, attended a live event, or listened to a podcast episode. What did she help you with? Hope? Joy? Liberation? Cheer? Patience? How to laugh again? Remember that feeling your girl Rach gave you in that exact moment you needed it before you turn your back on her. Now is not the time for what have you done for me lately kind of thinking. Her divorce will be a true testament of her strength and our Warrior needs support from her fans and fellow movement sisters now more than ever. Don’t forget how she has paved the path for you and other trailblazing women to lead their own charge, write their own story. Let’s honor her courage and send her love by letting her know she does, in fact, got this.