Weight loss is not a goal, it’s a result of being intentional with your eating.
I was talking to a very dear friend just yesterday about this very subject. When dining out with friends, she can’t resist not ordering the tastiest (unhealthiest) item on the menu. As a result, she hates how her clothes are fitting and come next week she plans to start KETO — which by the way she did last year, and here we are again.
When it comes to weight loss or body dysmorphia most fall into these “short-sighted” traps (i.e. FAD diets & dangerous food restrictions) which in the long-term never gets to the root of the problem or goal.
In my friend’s case, she needs to dump short-sighted extrinsic goal of clothing size and instead dig deep for an intrinsic purpose-driven goal like developing a healthier relationship with food. A healthier relationship with food would powerfully invoke a sense of control over her eating.
My personal training advice was to simplify this already touchy emotional subject for her. I explained all she had to do was make her current intentions of eating out at restaurants match up with how she wants to feel in her clothes. To do this successfully, she needs to take time to reflect on when and why this bad habit started and how she wants to react in the same situation. This powerful intentional step would put her back in control over her eating to then be a mainstay in her life.
For more clarity over her eating habits, I recommended my friend begin mindfully journaling at mealtimes. The journal would provide a complete overview of all her unhealthy eating triggers and behaviors. She can then better understand when did the type of meal she ordered become as important as just enjoying the company of good friends while dining out. Then she could formulate an intentional eating plan that still included being social with friends and matched her new intrinsic purposeful goals.